What love means to me .......

Haven't really been in love .... So I dont exactly have had first hand knowledge about pain of love, agony of seperation, dejection after being ditched and the rest ....

But yes .... I have seen too many ! To be more precise, 60 % of my friends had gal friends and I also had the chance of getting many of them together(a sort of social service). I have seen many of them going through all stages of love, dejection, resurrection, etc.... But have never really understood if it was really worth the problems and pains in the process involved.

Not a long back, one of my closest pals fell in love with a gal who i felt was not his perfect fit. I used to frequently tell him about getting out of the relationship. Despite both us being so close, he used to react histerically and our friendship began to get soar. With an intention of not letting my intrution affecting his personal issues, I decided to leave it to his finess and the fate.

Later I decided to analyse this case and understand what people really want and get our of these realtionships .... When i began digging into the relationships, i came across some similarities ...

Disclaimer : What follows is not applicable for infatuation or crush (Thought i felt both connote the same thing, my friends had varied interpretations)

1) The gal / Boy whoever was emotionally weak was controlled(read victimized) by the other.

2) The Controlled component(lol) of the pair begins to lose its way and gets detached from its previous companions(read friends) and gets driven towards the new controlling component with all the due force(read love)

3) In most of these cases, the love is created with some bottomline/tagline attached to it which can range from Money, Car, Looks, sense of humour, modesty and even some totally stupid things like Hair(not kidding at all). But something seems to get clear. Its a persons selfishness to own something which had attracted him/her sometimes in the past.

4) Loyalty is something that generally goes for a sixer in most of the occasions. When the Controlled component's attracted factor sometime gets exposed or proven "not so good" when stood close by, the controller wastes no time in regearing its fortunes.

I may appear to be a love-o-phobiac or may also seem like a person seriously maddened by the failure of my lost last love. But i am trying to put things from a perspective of a guy who has been strong enough till date of not having succumbed to the attraction of the stronger components.

There is always some incentive associated with love. Nothing comes or appears without a reason. After all we live in a age of business. How many relationship breaks do we see in everyday life ? When does a boy / gal break a relationship ... Only when he / she finds that this person has more unattractive factors than the few things that attracted them. Eventually it all boils down to some specific trading rules and exchange regulations.

I have come across some of the most funniest things across many of them caught in the entanglement of love. I was lectured about the purity of love by a gal who has ditched some 7 guys and is currently searching for the 8th Fool. A friend of mine was telling me about a gal who attracted him at the first sight(basic instinct). I was told that the love emanated not by her looks but by the gals character(poor fellow ... he has mastered the art of telepathy). I still dont get the logic behind love at first sight (probably that will be the topic of my next blog). In a Nutshell, I intend to say that "Love is a Business of sorts that takes control of the emotions and is sustained by the attraction" .

Most of you who had patience to read so far and are already in love will be waiting to pounce on me for the most obvious reason of having hurting your emotions. But my reasoning or the reason behind my rationale is not intended to do that. Ofcourse I do respect(err... atleast i will try to from now on) real love(something that i doubt exists and haven't really understood so far).Dont really try to refute for what all i have said above. Just look at it without making judgements .... I am very sure most of you will agree with me .....

And ... Please dont brand me as a heartless/emotion-less soul .... I welcome more insights ...

JK

... As alwaez